Not long ago, I was asked to travel to Washington state to work with some folks and their horses. It was a jam-packed two days of visiting about horses and life. These lovely folks were asked to reach past their own desires and consider the horses needs first.
I’m never quite sure how such a request as this will settle with folks after I’m long gone. But I will say that I will no longer compromise my standards, as perhaps I did in the past.
Years ago I wanted the people to have a good time and truly enjoy themselves. I wanted them to get a lot out of what I shared. I still want that… but it’s now a secondary desire. What is primary to me is the horse.
Matching personalities and skill level seems to be an anomaly in the general horse world. At least it seems that way to me. More times than not the requests made of the horse are far beyond their pay grade.
But the horses fill in.
My prerequisite is to have the willingness to empathize the horse’s position. If a person is willing to see from the horse’s perspective and adapt, nothing short of miracles can surface.
I feel this is greatly due to the horses innate desire to belong, and connect. Without this extreme tendency I don’t know if people and horses would ever find common ground. But somehow by Grace it is so.
So here on day 1 of a 3 day journey to help minimize the gap of understanding between the species there was unity.
I say this with all my heart, it’s nothing short of a miracle. And largely due to dipping far beyond desire for application. This kind of experience can only come from dropping expectations and allowing realizations to surface.
One of the folks on this first day, was a 19 year old gal who had gone through the high school drill team circuit. Learning a lot, but sadly not learning about the horse itself. She made a comment that is one of my absolute favorite things to hear. She said, “Wow, I’ve never thought of it like that before”.
When I hear this from a client, whether it’s in the office or the barn, I know we’ve broke through the layer of doing into realization. That statement only comes from the source of relatability. And more times than not, the person inadvertently puts their hand on their heart when they say it.
At that point I have done my part. Of course a refresher is always good, because old habits die hard. But the egg has been cracked.
I couldn’t be happier to have started my trip with this type of realization.
The inspiration has been planted, now it’s time to fertilize the ground and see what sprouts.